the end is nigh

[slumber]

It is 06:06, 06/06/06.

That is rather cool.

ETA: This has sort of somehow been run over to the ground already, but in all honesty, I've seen more people on my flist complain about how people ought to stop whining about their brutal honesty comments than I have seen people on my flist actually whining about their brutal honesty comments. (This, I believe, goes to show that my flist still has its head on its shoulders. *kisses to all, I ♥ you muchly*)

That is not what I'm ranting about here. :|

Now I'm sure some of you believe that brutal honesty is just hurtful and people ought to be kinder because there isn't enough of that going around, and I quite agree with both statements. There's not a lot of kindness still, the way the world is going, but it's not like it's a completely rare thing, at least online. Fandom is practically, when it isn't being a wankfest, one huge orgy, and I'm sure of that, because you know what, since this is the internets, people who hadn't been shown kindness would have left already. Some of us find our validation here, we find kind people here, and that's why we stay here--which, I suppose, is why it gets uncomfortable when people start bitching out. But the point is, I think we're kind enough.

Or at least, my flist is.

And I also agree, brutal honesty can hurt. It can be cruel. But at the same time, it's called brutal honesty for a reason, and I hope it wasn't intended for pointless stabbing. People aren't nice all the time, that's impossible, and we can't all get along. Maybe sometimes some things tick us off about other people and we want to be able to tell them, but there's a constant need to hide behind all the politeness because relationships with people on the internet can hang on a delicate balance OR we just really never actually know how to point out mistakes that our friends make, for some reason or another.

Sometimes you've got to be cruel to be kind, because sometimes the truth hurts. (Sorry, sorry, that was lame. But it holds true, doesn't it?)

And for the people who voluntarily put their names in the list and understood precisely what they were doing and didn't complain in the end, I think they know this. We know this. I'm not attacking people for thinking it's evil, you're entitled to your opinion, but this is what I have to say about this. Just so you know.

I know there are truths about myself that I'm too scared to admit to myself, that maybe I'm not completely aware about, that nobody is brave enough to say to my face. There are things I may have been doing unconsciously to hurt people, there are things that I've simply unconsciously been doing, and I need honesty to show me what they are.

Frankly, I need it more than kindness.

Comments

[boho.livejournal.com]

you weird timezone freak, you!

[slumber.livejournal.com]

You can do your own post come 06:06. :|

[boho.livejournal.com]

lol i thought of that, and then realised there's 0.01% of me being awake :P

[slumber.livejournal.com]

I wasn't planning on it, but I glanced at my clock and it was 6:01, and it hit 6:06 right after I opened my journal.

IT IS DEMONIC FATE.

[miss-charmed.livejournal.com]

That is freaky in a really cool way, yes.

Now, let's watch The Omen.

X|

[slumber.livejournal.com]

Hahaha, wala ka bang pasok for now? (You ever know what happened to jex? :\)

[miss-charmed.livejournal.com]

Actually meron. Delaying tactics lang... I have a feeling I'm gonne be late again, for liek, the nth time. :|

I've no idea what happened to him! I'm trying not to worry too much... :(

Bakit ang aga mong gumising? Back to school na ba? Heh.

[slumber.livejournal.com]

Ahahaha, okay. Kelan ka libre, then? Sige, nood tayo! :P

Ahh, okay. Let me know if you find out, yeah? Tagal na niyang di nag-update eh. :\

ENROLMENT OMG. Sasamahan ko si jaig around UP. :P

[miss-charmed.livejournal.com]

Weekend! Wanna? ;)

I will. 'Hopefully someone has news about him.

OHHH! Hey that's cool! What course? Haha, tour guide ba? :D

[slumber.livejournal.com]

Sige sige where? :D

Alright, thanks.

He got into Film, I went with him to Palma so he can pay. :P

[miss-charmed.livejournal.com]

Wah, sorry. Napanood mo na? How about next week?

That's a cool course. And an expensive one. Are you on your third year?

[slumber.livejournal.com]

It's okay, haven't seen it yet. Went to watch Cars with my friend, haha. No problem, tell me when you'd like and where? :P

Me? I'm a seeeeeenior. *dies*

[miss-charmed.livejournal.com]

Senior! Oooh you're graduating pretty soon! :DD

Do you still have the same number? I already changed mine, 09062356585. ;)

[slumber.livejournal.com]

Hahaha I know! Scary thought, don't remind me again. :|

Aaaand yep. :P *changes your number*

aha, random stuff you don't really want to know

[essawkward.livejournal.com]

essa: kind of. i just... i like to have brutal comments that i can go to when i need them. the last brutal honesty meme was friends locked, and i miss the comments
essa: i almost cried when i found out
Sapphic: you need brutal comments essa?
essa: yes, i do.
Sapphic: I so can't get my head around this
Sapphic: sorry, I'm just trying to understand :P
essa: sometimes i just need to read them to reassure myself
Sapphic: I like the psychology of stuff like this
Sapphic: how is it reassuring?
essa: :/ um, okay. i kind of have this constant disequelibrium in my mind, where half my thoughts (or part of, at least) are completely self-obsessed and selfish and egotistical. and then there's the opposing side, which says i'm nothing and it's horrible to think that way and i should be less vain and more humble and i see/know that things i write/say/do/draw/whatever are bad, and. yes. and it doesn't balance, and i only say the second part out loud but the first part is there, too. and sometimes i get really confused and i just need the brutal comments.
Sapphic: so you need to hear your faults to keep yourself balanced?
essa: uh, kind of. i dont know if i'm ever really balanced
Sapphic: well, grounded then maybe
essa: lets call it semi-stable

Re: aha, random stuff you don't really want to know

[slumber.livejournal.com]

*blinks* That kind of makes sense in a strange sort of way--we're not meant to be completely one way or another, I think there will always BE opposing forces balancing us out, yes. /zen

[the-andorran.livejournal.com]

I personally think that the spirit of the brutal honesty meme is never really carried out, and that is the problem with it. I know that when I answer people's brutally honest memes, it's less my brutal honest and more my most nasty opinion of people - opinion, be it true or not. It's all about perspective. And I don't think that the honesty meme does what people look for it to do. A good friend will tell you - not-anonymously - the honest truth when requested.

[slumber.livejournal.com]

I think even though people just give out nasty opinions in the end, they're still perceptions that would hold a grain of truth. Something the person's done before might have merited that judgment, I'm assuming, and it may be a small deal, or it might not, but at least it's out on the table. There is a problem in how it ends up becoming, but the fact that it's done on a voluntary basis should prepare participants in understanding what they need to filter out of their emo systems and into what they could listen to.

Good friends will, probably, but in my case, I never really get the chance to actually request for them. :| It's a lot complicated actually getting friends to be honest in some cases.

I'm not saying the meme is good and everyone should take it. It's just that it serves some purpose for some people, and I was hoping people could understand that it isn't just about lashing out. I do agree wholeheartedly with those of the opinion that people who put their names in had better be ready for what's coming to them, because really, we asked for it.

[boho.livejournal.com]

so, what is the spirit of the brutal honesty meme? hm, maybe you should start being honest rather than nasty, and if your honesty is nasty then that's fine, but being nasty over honest (because it's anon?) is a bit harsh really. and yes, everything is perspective and that's the point isn't it? a person is not a fixed object that can be described such as a 'green wingback chair' - a person is different when viewed and thought of by everyone, and thus can be viewed 'honestly' as different things and with varying degrees of affection by different people. the meme is made so it's voluntary, and people should know they're imperfect and not expect people to glaze over everything bad about them. honesty is hard with good friends, i can be more honest with strangers/acquaintances than good friends about certain issues and opinions but i really don't think i'm a bad friend because of this. there's being an honest good friend and then there's being unnecessarily rudely honest.

[jaig.livejournal.com]

OH GOD YOU'RE CRAZY.

ALSO, WORD.

[slumber.livejournal.com]

I wish I had an evil Satanic icon to haunt you with. :( *uses Good Omens*

Adam was the coolest Anti-Christ ever. :|

[dark-eyed-amy.livejournal.com]

I'm more excited about 20:06 20/06/2006, because I'm a flob like that ^_^

[boho.livejournal.com]

y'know it took me like an hour to realise why. :|