the end is nigh

[slumber]

It is 06:06, 06/06/06.

That is rather cool.

ETA: This has sort of somehow been run over to the ground already, but in all honesty, I've seen more people on my flist complain about how people ought to stop whining about their brutal honesty comments than I have seen people on my flist actually whining about their brutal honesty comments. (This, I believe, goes to show that my flist still has its head on its shoulders. *kisses to all, I ♥ you muchly*)

That is not what I'm ranting about here. :|

Now I'm sure some of you believe that brutal honesty is just hurtful and people ought to be kinder because there isn't enough of that going around, and I quite agree with both statements. There's not a lot of kindness still, the way the world is going, but it's not like it's a completely rare thing, at least online. Fandom is practically, when it isn't being a wankfest, one huge orgy, and I'm sure of that, because you know what, since this is the internets, people who hadn't been shown kindness would have left already. Some of us find our validation here, we find kind people here, and that's why we stay here--which, I suppose, is why it gets uncomfortable when people start bitching out. But the point is, I think we're kind enough.

Or at least, my flist is.

And I also agree, brutal honesty can hurt. It can be cruel. But at the same time, it's called brutal honesty for a reason, and I hope it wasn't intended for pointless stabbing. People aren't nice all the time, that's impossible, and we can't all get along. Maybe sometimes some things tick us off about other people and we want to be able to tell them, but there's a constant need to hide behind all the politeness because relationships with people on the internet can hang on a delicate balance OR we just really never actually know how to point out mistakes that our friends make, for some reason or another.

Sometimes you've got to be cruel to be kind, because sometimes the truth hurts. (Sorry, sorry, that was lame. But it holds true, doesn't it?)

And for the people who voluntarily put their names in the list and understood precisely what they were doing and didn't complain in the end, I think they know this. We know this. I'm not attacking people for thinking it's evil, you're entitled to your opinion, but this is what I have to say about this. Just so you know.

I know there are truths about myself that I'm too scared to admit to myself, that maybe I'm not completely aware about, that nobody is brave enough to say to my face. There are things I may have been doing unconsciously to hurt people, there are things that I've simply unconsciously been doing, and I need honesty to show me what they are.

Frankly, I need it more than kindness.

Comments

[boho.livejournal.com]

so, what is the spirit of the brutal honesty meme? hm, maybe you should start being honest rather than nasty, and if your honesty is nasty then that's fine, but being nasty over honest (because it's anon?) is a bit harsh really. and yes, everything is perspective and that's the point isn't it? a person is not a fixed object that can be described such as a 'green wingback chair' - a person is different when viewed and thought of by everyone, and thus can be viewed 'honestly' as different things and with varying degrees of affection by different people. the meme is made so it's voluntary, and people should know they're imperfect and not expect people to glaze over everything bad about them. honesty is hard with good friends, i can be more honest with strangers/acquaintances than good friends about certain issues and opinions but i really don't think i'm a bad friend because of this. there's being an honest good friend and then there's being unnecessarily rudely honest.